The Fetishist Files

"Sex is emotion in motion."

Sun, 20 Mar 2011 13:18:18 -0400

“Sex is emotion in motion.”

- Mae West

Part transvestic fetishism, part masochism, the sissy maid is a...

Sun, 20 Mar 2011 12:57:44 -0400

Part transvestic fetishism, part masochism, the sissy maid is a small but growing subculture in the sadomasochistic world. Sissies are grown men that lead their lives as pre-adolescent little girls in public and, in private, wear maid outfits and perform household chores for their usually female dominant partners. In this video, Sissy Stephanie and her friends Sissy Carol and Sissy Terri frolic around playfully, just like any other little girls would.

Man Prosecuted for Piss Predilection

Sun, 20 Mar 2011 12:37:28 -0400

Man Prosecuted for Piss Predilection:

An Ohio man who has a fetish for drinking the urine of others was sentenced to 30 days in jail after he collected urine from a public bathroom in Columbus. The man’s previous record included charges for voyeurism, public indecency, rape and a string of other bathroom-related incidents.

Suicidal Fantasy

Sun, 20 Mar 2011 12:29:52 -0400

Suicidal Fantasy:

One Minnesota man’s fetish for persuading other people to commit suicide got him sent to jail for their deaths.

One of the most prominent films to depict BDSM imagery, the 1967...

Thu, 17 Mar 2011 14:08:00 -0400

One of the most prominent films to depict BDSM imagery, the 1967 French film Belle de Jour has become an erotic cult classic. The film tells the tale of Séverine Serizy (Catherine Deneuve), a sexually frustrated young housewife who has masochistic yearnings for bondage and flogging. In the film’s graphic opening scene, Séverine dreams of a highly-detailed scenario where she is taken out to the country in a horse carriage, bound and whipped by two coachmen while her husband watches.

S&M Shopping Guide

Thu, 17 Mar 2011 13:08:32 -0400

Contrary to popular opinion, sadomasochism isn’t just about whips and handcuffs. There are many different variations on the two basic principles of S&M: control and submission. No matter whether you’re into bondage or piss play, you’ll want the right gear to ensure that your carnal desires are fully satisfied. With this guide to S&M stores and products, divided by preference, you will be able to identify exactly the play objects you need to infuse the maximum amount of pleasure—or pain—into your sex life.

Vanilla Novice:

If you’re just entering the scene, it is best to begin with basic bondage fun. Learning the art of restraint can be rewarding for both dominant and submissive partners. It is also an excellent starting point for those seeking to move on to kinkier exploration. The first step to introducing bondage to your bedroom routine is purchasing rope, tape or another type of restraint. Toys in Babeland, the popular sex shop chain that has two locations in Manhattan and one in Brooklyn, carries a vast selection of different restraints, including a black satin bondage kit with hand-ties and a mask ($28), bondage tape ($18) and, for those who are a bit more adventurous, the best-selling under the bed restraints that bind the entire body to the mattress ($58).

Toys in Babeland Manhattan Locations: 94 Rivingston St. (212-375-1701), 43 Mercer St. (212-966-2120)

Toys in Babeland Brooklyn Location: 462 Bergen St. (718-638-3820)

Decadent Hedonist:

For those who like to incorporate luxury into their carnal escapades, Kiki de Montparnasse, the erotic Soho boutique, is a wet dream come true. The soignée sex shop sells a wide variety of opulent objects, from black silk bondage rope to braided leather lambskin whips. If you’re willing to squander grandiose amounts of cash on your sex life, then by all means go for the $2,400 harvested pearl restraints or the $995 restraining arts kit, which includes lambskin wrist and ankle cuffs, adjustable straps finished with leather trim, a handcrafted leather paddle and straps that can be attached to stationary objects like tables and doors. But if you want to inject a bit of elegance into your bedroom behaviors without breaking the bank, there is no need to quiver. Consider my personal favorite, the 24-karat gold-plated handcuffs that come with a long key on a chain that can double as a necklace ($350) or the braided leather whip ($150).

Kiki de Montparnasse, 79 Greene St.

Phone Number: (212) 965-815

Gay Leather Daddy:

Members of New York’s gay leather cult rely on one store to cater to their every need: The Leather Man. With a selection of both clothing and toys, this gay sex depot offers a dreamy surplus of naughty bits to have a gay sadomasochist shaking with excitement in his boots. Highlights include the black neoprene chaps ($195), the chrome plated steel chastity cock cage ($159.95) and the rubber mouth gag with a long hollow opening for fluids to pass through ($54.95).

The Leather Man, 111 Christoper St.

Phone Number: (212) 243-5339

Human Animal:

For those looking to tap into their inner wild beast—either as dominant master or submissive human-as-animal—The Pleasure Chest, a sex toy emporium with locations in New York, Chicago and Los Angeles, is the place to go. Animalistic paraphernalia for those looking to tap into their inner wild beast run from creative gags like the leather and silver metal pony mouth bit ($59.95) and the leather muzzle ($59.95) to more extreme items like the rubber Rottweiler hood ($430.95).

The Pleasure Chest, 156 Seventh Avenue South

Phone Number: (212) 242-2158

Submissive Slave:

A lot of hard work and dedication goes into being a good sissy submissive. In addition to pleasing your dominant top master’s every demand, you must have the proper assemblage of the most revealing submissive outfits and accoutrements. For clothing, there is no place better than Demask, the fetish gear mecca that has outposts in Amsterdam, Dortmund, Munich and New York. Ideal fashion choices for the eager masochist include the skin-tight black patent rubber crotchless Pussy Pant briefs ($70) and the painted on black patent rubber catsuit with a back to front zipper at the crotch for easy access ($423) are the ideal fashion choices for the most eager masochist. To top off your look, it is mandatory to wear a slave collar, and Demask offers a classic leather version with an O-ring ornament ($51.00).

Demask, 144 Orchard St.

Phone Number: (212) 466-0814

Sadomasochistic imagery, most particularly bondage, has been...

Sat, 12 Mar 2011 20:04:00 -0500

Sadomasochistic imagery, most particularly bondage, has been employed in many pop music videos in the past two decades, from Madonna’s videos for “Erotica” (1992) and “Human Nature” (1995) to Christina Aguilera’s video for “Not Myself Tonight” last year. Rihanna is the most current artist to turn to the BDSM world for creative inspiration. In her video for her appropriately titled single “S&M,” Rihanna walks Perez Hilton around on a leash, whips a bound reporter and is shown tied up and rolling around the floor.

Exhibitionism in the Classroom

Fri, 04 Mar 2011 17:11:00 -0500

Exhibitionism in the Classroom:

One human sexuality professor at Northwestern University really pushed the envelope by bringing an exhibitionist into his classroom for a lesson. Click on the title of this post to find out more.

Whether you’re looking for crotchless patent rubber...

Sun, 27 Feb 2011 13:56:00 -0500

Whether you’re looking for crotchless patent rubber panties or a chain harness with an internal dildo and butt plug, Demask is the mecca for S&M ready-to-wear and objects. Their stores in Amsterdam, Dortmund, Munich and New York offer a plethora of fetishistic objects. If you aren’t in the vicinity of one of their outposts, you can always check out their website, which offers an even wider selection of bondage toys. To be linked to the website, just click on the image.

Vorearephilia is a paraphilia where an individual gets sexual...

Sun, 27 Feb 2011 13:47:00 -0500

Vorearephilia is a paraphilia where an individual gets sexual pleasure from fantasizing about eating others. Because acting on these desires would evidently be highly illegal, many vorearephiles, or “vores,” turn to websites to satisfy their hunger. Muki’s Kitchen, which shows depictions of nude women being impaled on spits like pigs about to be roasted among other scenarios, is one of these websites. To be linked to the website, just click on the image.

“Strange Love: Married to the Eiffel Tower” is a...

Wed, 16 Feb 2011 22:02:02 -0500

“Strange Love: Married to the Eiffel Tower” is a riveting, fascinating BBC documentary that takes a look at a very specific and rare paraphilia: objectum sexuality. The documentary follows three different women, all of whom have intimate, romantic relationships with inanimate objects, from small common gadgets like bows to large-scale monuments like the Berlin Wall. After viewing “Strange Love,” my entire perception on sexual attraction and relationships drastically changed. It is a remarkable representation of the psychology of paraphilias and those who have them.

Strange Sex

Tue, 15 Feb 2011 19:27:00 -0500

Strange Sex:

I once read somewhere that paraphilias are like allergies; one can be aroused by just about anything. Here are 10 of the more obscure documented paraphilias.

A Little Bit of Discipline Never Did Anyone Much Harm

Tue, 15 Feb 2011 19:17:20 -0500

A Little Bit of Discipline Never Did Anyone Much Harm:

This interesting Salon article takes a look at New York’s spanking cult.

Fashion photography maestro Helmut Newton frequently used...

Tue, 08 Feb 2011 15:29:00 -0500

Fashion photography maestro Helmut Newton frequently used provocative sexual and fetishistic imagery in his pictures. This image is a perfect example of his carnally-charged work.

"Variety, multiplicity are the two most powerful vehicles of lust."

Tue, 08 Feb 2011 15:21:28 -0500

“Variety, multiplicity are the two most powerful vehicles of lust.”

- Marquis de Sade